The other day was my hair day. As usual, I came up with another plan for my hair. “Lisa, I want you to make it darker so that my highlights will stand out. I want to go back to being a “winter” instead of this false “autumn” look.” I want you to do this, I want you to do that”. She said – “Wow, you waited too long to get your hair done, that’s what’s wrong with you”. Well after about an hour of explanation why she STRONGLY disagreed with me about going darker, I finally got it, and can again equate it to Photoshop.
Here is the truth about aging from a Hairdresser’s view. No amount of makeup, hair dye or clothes is going to recapture the ”vibrancy” of youth. That’s because we are FADING with age. I finally understood this because she said my skin is fading and that’s why she wouldn’t go darker for my hair – she insisted that it would look “witchy” even though not 10 years ago that was my natural color.
I get it now. It’s like taking a layer of digital beauty (a photograph) and making it more transparent. Each little bit of decrease in the opacity takes away the intensity of the color. Well I guess that’s a good view of aging. A more transparent picture is the same picture – it’s just a softer, paler version of it.
Eventually, when it’s so transparent that it’s barely there, it kind of becomes “ethereal”. If you have “The Ugly Duck Makeover” then look how I made the very back page – I faded it out quite a bit. The more “opaque” (darker) version was just too harsh and sent the wrong message.
So, friends, this is meant as encouragement for those of us who are NOT into aging (or as Arbonne says – looking younger, longer.) There is just as much beauty in getting older as being younger. We’re the same picture, just less opaque and more transparent.
She (my hairdresser) knows for sure – she promotes beauty no matter what the age – “Black hair like your 28 year old daughter???? Come on, Diane, you’re 55, so be proud of it and quit fighting it.” “Ok, Lisa … thanks, I guess?”